Last night I went to see "I Love You, Man," a bro-mantic comedy -- or the latest blockbuster formula in Hollywood. Paul Rudd plays Peter, a chronic boyfriend -- sensitive, honest, thoughtful, and more comfortable with the opposite sex (we all know that guy). When he gets engaged, his fiancee encourages him to fill out their wedding party with some of his best friends, and he embarks on a series of man-dates in search of a BFF.
When Peter finds his match made in heaven, it's in the free-love, free-thought, intuitive quasi-bohemian Sydney, played by Jason Segel. But unlike the romantic comedies of yore, this friendship is all about embracing their testosterone-driven, lustful inner animal. Unlike Peter, Sydney is way in touch with his man-side, and encourages Peter to yawp and masturbate his way there as well.
This is not the first time I've walked out of a movie about love and relationships realizing that I am no longer the target audience. It follows a string of male-centered romantic/friendship comedies dominating screens big and small. Characters like Turk and J.D., Andy the 40-year-old virgin, and just about anyone played by Josh Rogan are in good company. They encourage bachelors everywhere to throw the Prince Charming of the female genre out the window, and give them the real man in all of his imperfect, unfaithful, impulsive and sometimes downright disgusting tendencies. (Hey, in spirit of bromance, I'm just keepin' it real.) They thank Greg Behrent and Judd Apatow for helping them get their balls back.
I find it a fascinating turn in our culture that the bromance points to. After the metrosexual phenomenon has become everyday, and more and more men are just as concerned with their appearance as women are, it turns out they have also become just as obsessed with the perfect girl as we are with the perfect guy -- and their fantasies just as full of issues.
Although I have mixed feelings about the overall message bromance is trying to make (about as mixed as my feelings towards the female version), I gotta say the former is way more entertaining to me overall. I don't know what that says about me. I've never been much of a traditional romantic, and maybe I'm finding myself feeling out-womaned by men.
